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AGEING, LOVE & MARRIAGE

i write this in response to Shing's (sorry but i just cant bring myself to call you ally) entry in which she exposes the intricacies of love & marriage.

first of all, i do not understand why some women think that once they get married, it is acceptible that they 'let go'. ladies, im sure you know what i mean, but for the benefit of guys, 'letting go' includes, no longer bothering to shave, apply make up, smell good, keep in good shape, et cetera et cetera (btw, my chinese teacher says et ceterika). basically to not upkeep your image and in general, look good.
take a look at example A:
lady A married 2 years ago and recently gave birth to a healthy baby. she and her husband are thrilled. amidst all the hustle and bustle of first-time motherhood, lady A has failed to regain her prenatal figure after a year. (gasps!) her sex drive has also toned down, most likely due to nursing and caring for her child. as the months pass, she gets sucked into the vicious cycle of motherhood and has traded her manolo blahnik stilettos for Bata walking shoes. her perfume, for powder; her leather minis for beige pencil skirts, and oh! only washes her hair on alternate days now, and shaves for special occasions.
the funny thing is, lady A can turn around, aghast, and say: "OHMY LORD, I THINK LARRY'S CHEATING ON ME!" damn straight he is.
ladies, if anything, learn from Gabrielle Solis. Samantha Jones if you're unmarried.
and think of this, if Carlos can cheat on Gabby with some drab cheena, WHAT CHANCE DO WE MERE MORTALS HAVE?

and that old adage that a way to a man's heart is through is stomach? whoever invented that needs to seriously reconsider the male species.
my mother tells me: you better learn to cook cos ur husband will want that". and i go "puhlease, in this day and age? i dun think it really matters anymore'. she goes "hah! that's what you THINK!wait till u find a husband!". now, considering the first time i skinned an apple was when i was 15, and that by the time i was done the apple had turned yellow, i totally disagree.

HELLO!? when your husband cheats on you, you dont go "come! i cook char kuay teow! you dont go to geylang anymore k?. and u dont use that as a strategy to keep him home!!
what do you do? YOU SPICE UP THE SEX LIFE! sheesh.

on ageing: i already hate growing old. and the fact that i dont want to admit im turning a grave 17 by xmas also proves im ageing prematurely. i should, by rights, by jumping for joy. or at least looking forward to my bday. i dread the horrors of marriage and motherhood.

on ageing in marriage: yes, as much as i encourage all women to be more like Gabrielle, we all, one day- including the very ms Longoria- will age. and there will come a day when we have to stand upside down for our boobs to look good. but the key phrase here is to age gracefully. and im not saying that even when we're 40 we should try squeezing ourselfs into a mini, but keeping up appearances includes dressing your age.
and of course, you cant always 24/7 be in a sexy thong at home. and chances are, ur husband will get bored of you overdoing the make up and sex-turned-slut appeal. there definately is a something about seeing your wife in scruby pj's, makeupless , hair in wild disarray.

...man.. i have a future in marriage counselling.

point is: you cant get married and then naturally expect and assume your husband is gonna stay faithful. you cant do everything wrong and say 'but you made a vow to me' . you have to take an active role in making ur marriage work -which hardly ever happens.

and for GODS SAKE! i fucking cant stand Unfaithful by Rihanna.

i was bitching with jo, and our hot topic for the day was our arch enemy *****. im too chicken to name. bitching abt ***** was not enough so we started attacking *****'s friend as well. and the friend, name mandy, claims she's a dancer... like... on her blog n friendster. like me basically.
the only diff is...
i actually do dance. now im not sure the extent of her dancing, but this really got me thinking. for all those girls who go clubbing and dance on the dance floor, and dance in front of the mirror at home with the radio -even if u dance well- ur not entitled to call urself a 'dancer'...
i dont exactly noe the criteria in order for one to call themselves a dancer.. but please, dont insult the art/sport by calling yourself a dancer when all you do is copy pussycat's 'buttons' vid. eg just hiphop or just ballet) doesnt qualify u as a 'dancer'. ur a 'dancer' when u can pull off every dance type. (thats me) however, u are allowed to say eg "yes i dance ballet/ i dance hiphop"
as i said i dunno the exact criteria for calling yourself a 'dancer', but i i think dancing ballet consistently for a decade, n takin 5classes a week and being able to pull of any dance type with the exception of capoera and breakdance qualifies me.

its just because with all the hype about dancing like STEP UP and Take the lead.. and all those celebrity dance comps.. everyone wants to claim they're a dancer. ur not! people like me have been working their asses off their entire lives to call themselves dancers and they dont do it just for the title.. u cant just take up ballroom classes one day say ur a dancer! n i noe u just want the 'feel good' of telling ppl "yeah.. im a dancer" cos i do that too, but unlike you, its true.

thats leaves mandy outta my criteria

my camera lens is damn dirty. there's ben on the far left, the other of steph's dates i was telling u about. then evan n matt her other dates n lachlan (rahc's bf btw)
left to right: ambika, me, bron (you might recognise her from photos of the drama dance dinner)
evan and mat. ok evan is really cute but mat is a really good dancer. n being a dancer myself, im not easily impressed...but i was.

rach, steph and me. ok i just asked for fangyi and hanafi's opinion. they all prefer my red dress. fine then!
james (lauren waugh's bro) and rach.

left to right: mat, steph batsakis, evan, lachlan hausser. (mat, evan and ben, not in the pic, were steph's dates! she hold the record for most number of dates for the prom. n i think evan is real cute.) rach. funnily enough this pic reminds me of stupid jap girls acting cute, but somehow maybe its cos she isnt asian so the effect isnt there.

me and lauren waugh.

prom

Unofficial yr 11 formal. 1 sept 2006. i wore this dress to my 15th bday, and yes, its abit old but ididnt wanna spend alot for this formal. n the dress looks hot anyway. so my mum curled my hair again and im posing in my beautiful room looking gorgeous! i took pics with my mum at home, since im her masterpeice, as tradition dictates, but cos i look fugly n all of them, i didnt wanna post it.
before/pre party. thats rachel palmer n we're at lauren chesterman's house in Mitcham (a suburb). when i arrived lauren chest was still trying to paste her wonder bra while reading out the instructions on the box: 'Lift boob up and...'. im also wearing my mum's bracelet and the earrings i bought at Far East with xh on my june hol to singapore.

left to right: gorgeous lynn, dirty tom Mcnicol (hanafi this was who i was telling u about), stephan (lauren chesterman's bf) and dear amelia Keen.
left to right: sexy lynn, chic lauren waugh, darling amelia, endowed lauren Chesterman (who finally pasted her bra) and dalring rach. we were feeling like celebs cos we were posing n like were like a million lights flashing at us cos all the parents n brothers were there taking photos..